From the time I moved up to my Junior year a lot of really great things have happened in my life. I’ve been able to take some of the most challenging and rewarding classes yet, I have a confidence in school that I’ve never had before, I have the most phenomenal job I could ever dream of having, I work with some of the most amazing and talented people, I have an adorable apartment that fits me, I was blessed with respectful roommates who understand school and the stress that comes with it, and I’ve developed relationships with my family that I’ve thoroughly enjoyed. All in all, this Fall has started off pretty well. If you had asked me weeks ago, however, I would have said it was the worst Fall of my life.
I knew something was wrong. I was ornery, agitated, I couldn’t sleep very well, and I just didn’t feel happy. I thought it was a mix of lack of sleep, starting school, other stress, and thought it would just “go away”. Well, it didn’t. It started to impact my schoolwork and social activity. I felt isolated, alone, and pretty close to having no friends.
That’s pretty unusual for a Junior, usually we have our college life close to together by now. Finally I took some time for reflection and really dug to find the source of this disruption.
Theodore Roosevelt once said “comparison is the thief of joy.” Amen! Weeks later I have finally realized just how ungrateful and selfish I have been. I was so busy comparing my life and friendships I forgot to realize just how blessed I was. When constantly comparing to see if your life “chalks up” to the next person’s, who could be happy? Thinking about it I realize we do this a lot more than we probably think.
Girls, this one’s for you. How many times have you thought, if only I was skinnier. If only I looked like her. If only I had her hair, her smile, her easy-going nature, her confidence, her style.
Stop it. Stop it right now.
You will never measure up if you’re constantly basing your ‘standards’ off of someone else. You are you, and everything good and bad that comes with it. No one else in the world is exactly like you, that’s the beauty of it. If we were all held to the same standard of weight, height, style etc. the world would be pretty boring. Stop comparing and start celebrating what makes you unique.
Beauty Redefined quotes Hanne Blank “Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise.” All women are ‘real women’ and we’re all worth something in every shape and size. Do what you need to to accept yourself and be confident about it.
Basically, I guess where I’m going with this late night rant is, stop comparing. Stop comparing yourself, stop comparing your friends (purposefully and not purposefully), and stop comparing each other. Stop comparing real life to your ‘reality’ of what it should be. Just stop comparing in general, it does wonders on self-confidence. Here’s to accepting each other for the unique, crazy, beautiful, handsome, talented, and smart people we are. Here’s to accepting ourselves too.