A for honesty….or I mean eventual honesty.
Ask anyone who knows me, I’m considered a ‘feisty one’. I know for a fact I get it from my mother, we can give each other quite a run for our money. Give it enough time and I’ll tell you exactly what I think and when I think it. Some people condone this quality, others praise it. But here’s what I think, why doesn’t everyone do that?
I’ve discovered that while I’m a ‘feisty one’, I also have soft feelings and compassion for others….and I’m kind of a people pleaser. I worry way too much about what other people think. Lately I’ve been putting others happiness before mine, even if it means putting a mask on and saying what they want to hear-all for their “happiness”. In fact it’s downright frustrating, not productive at all, and usually creates a bigger mess to clean up. Doesn’t make sense to me…how about you?
Think about it girls, how many times have we gone shopping with a friend who tries an item on that just doesn’t look good. Do we tell them? Heck no! We gush, and ooh, and ahh…praising how great the article looks while in reality it’s a lie. I am so guilty of this one it isn’t even funny. Wouldn’t a good friend kindly say….let’s keep looking? I hope mine would.
Just be you.
PHOTO: Brooke Cagle
Upon this realization I have set a new goal for myself (goal setting…it’s kind of a new thing. Pretty productive from what I can tell). STOP IT. It doesn’t do any good. I’m just as human as everyone else. I can only fake it for so long before I explode, people explode….we all explode and it’s one big mess. Usually it takes a significant amount of caffeine and some good old-fashioned heart to heart to settle the smoke.
Wouldn’t it have just been easier to save the explosion, smoke, and caffeine by being honest in the first place? Some conversations are awkward, uncomfortable, and absolutely necessary. Communication people, for being a JCOM major….I’ve kind of been sucking at it.
So here’s the goal for you guys out there (myself definitely included)….stop faking it. Be genuine human beings. Stand up for what you believe in. Quit caring so much about others and take the time to care for yourself. In reality, by caring for yourself and telling the truth…you’re taking better care of them anyways. Good friends tell the truth, even when it’s “not your color”.
As the great Dr. Seuss says “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”